What to Do On
Barrington H. Brennen, 1998, Updated May 2019
dating ideas below are for The Bahamas but can be helpful to anyone
I’ve noticed that far too many budding couples do not take
the time to get to know each other before they become
intimate. This behavior destroys the wholesome development
of relationships. When they get deep into the relationship
and discover faults and unacceptable habits, one of them
usually feel trapped. They do their best to change their
partners, but it does not work. There are lots of arguments
that lead to confusion and trouble hearts.
One secret is to take the time
to really know each other before becoming saturated with
intimacy. This means that the couple must be creative and
wise when spending time together. Hence, I created a list
of things couples can do when on a date without become too
intimate too early. Bear in mind, if you are seriously
looking for a life-long mate, and you want to make an
objective decision about your choice, remember that there
should be no kissing on your first, second, third, fourth,
etc., date. Become friends first. Kissing and fondling
destroys dating and objective decision-making. Kissing
does not reveal character. It only displays passion and
that’s no good for developing a wholesome relationship.
Thus, here are the dating ideas:
Enjoy a popcorn pillow fight (not in the bedroom). Take a
trip on the Bohingi. During the Christmas season, spend two
hours together at the Carnival/Circus. Create your very own Christmas comedy drama on
video. Visit Atlantis Resorts fun area on Paradise Island or Baha Mar fun areas. Pretend you are five-year-old again and
play on the swings. Have a Christmas sing-a-long at your
home with friends. Visit the Botanical Garden on a sunny
Go skateboarding on a single
board made for two. Go to a restaurant with other couples.
Go parasailing together. Walk a mile together. Play
basketball. Have a pizza, yogurt and laugh-me-to-death
party. Read the book of Solomon together. Play monopoly. Go
swimming with family or/friends on a sunny day. Go on a
butterfly discovery walk or visit one our nature parks.
Visit the Water Tower together. Go canoeing on a Bahamian
lake. Enjoy a game of Pictorama. Assemble a puzzle. Spend a
few hours at a Adastra Gardens and Zoo. Enjoy the dolphin encounter at
the Blue Lagoon. Swing with the dolphins. Play tooth-
pick-pass with other couples. Make you own Junkanoo artwork
using the real stuff.
Visit a hospital or nursing
home. Go to Paint and Sip Studio, Listen to Christian love
music together. Read the book of Ruth. Go diving in the
pool. Learn a new indoor game each month. Attend a concert
together. Go duck hunting. Go bird watching. Enjoy caroling
during the Christmas season. Visit each other's parents
-take them on a date with you. Pray together. Draw pictures
of each other. Play Pictionary. Plan you own special Olympic
day. Play catch-me-if-you-can. Play the "tell me what's on
my mind" game. Visit our national museums and parks
together—Clifton Heritage, Bahamas National Trust, Pompey
Museum, Historical Society, National Art Gallery or
Junknanoo Museum. Visit the Jetline Simulation or other
game rooms. Play pool together.
Smile at everyone you see. Have
a Sunday morning breakfast by the lake. Write a song
together. Go biking on a nature trail. Go on a flower hunt.
Read Elizabeth and Robert Browning poems to each other. Go
sky diving. Go wind surfing. Go Bird watching. Take a
one-day ride Andros. Go window shopping in a mall. Read a
favorite magazine or newspaper together. Shell collecting on
a beach. Take turn writing a story. Learn to play the guitar
together. Cook a gourmet meal together in one of your
parents' home. Play "what your favorite . . ."
Hug a tree. Go jogging
together. Make surprises for each other. Modify a card game
with your own special rules. Invent a secret code romantic
language. Go riding, rolling, jumping and walking on the
beaches. Play arm wrestling for couples. Play scrabble,
chess, or tic-tac-toe together. Talk about God together.
Water ski together. Make hand crafts together. Watch a
wholesome movie together.
Jump off the roof of a
twenty-story building-with parachutes on of course. Read
epitaphs together. Go Scuba diving. Play football,
volleyball, table tennis together. Sit and look in each
other's face. On a clear night, count the stars. Go
butterfly catching. Study the effects of the moon on
romantic relationships. Pretend Subway, Menchies or TCBY
are fancy restaurants. On a wet day, walk in the rain
together. Remember to kiss romantically in small doses. No
petting of body parts. SIT AND BE STILL. Have fun.
Remember, you want to know each other well long before you
ignite the fire.
Barrington H. Brennen, MA, NCP, BCCP, a
marriage and family therapist and board certified clinical
psychotherapist, USA. Send your questions or comments to firstname.lastname@example.org
or write to P.O. Box CB-13019, Nassau, The Bahamas, or visitwww.soencouragement.org
or call 242-327-1980 / 242-426 4002 Cell / 242 477 4002