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What to Do On a Date?
Barrington H. Brennen, 1998, Updated May 2019
The dating ideas below are for The Bahamas but can be helpful to anyone anywhere.

 

THE PROBLEM
I’ve noticed that far too many budding couples do not take the time to get to know each other before they become intimate.   This behavior destroys the wholesome development of relationships.  When they get deep into the relationship and discover faults and unacceptable habits, one of them usually feel trapped.  They do their best to change their partners, but it does not work.  There are lots of arguments that lead to confusion and trouble hearts. 

One secret is to take the time to really know each other before becoming saturated with intimacy.  This means that the couple must be creative and wise when spending time together.  Hence, I created a list of things couples can do when on a date without become too intimate too early.  Bear in mind, if you are seriously looking for a life-long mate, and you want to make an objective decision about your choice, remember that there should be no kissing on your first, second, third, fourth, etc., date.  Become friends first.  Kissing and fondling destroys dating and objective decision-making.   Kissing does not reveal character.  It only displays passion and that’s no good for developing a wholesome relationship.   Thus, here are the dating ideas:

DATING IDEAS
Enjoy a popcorn pillow fight (not in the bedroom). Take a trip on the Bohingi.  During the Christmas season, spend two hours together at the Carnival/Circus. Create your very own Christmas comedy drama on video. Visit Atlantis Resorts fun area on Paradise Island or Baha Mar fun areas.  Pretend you are five-year-old again and play on the swings. Have a Christmas sing-a-long at your home with friends. Visit the Botanical Garden on a sunny day.

Go skateboarding on a single board made for two. Go to a restaurant with other couples. Go parasailing together. Walk a mile together. Play basketball. Have a pizza, yogurt and laugh-me-to-death party. Read the book of Solomon together. Play monopoly. Go swimming with family or/friends on a sunny day. Go on a butterfly discovery walk or visit one our nature parks.   Visit the Water Tower together. Go canoeing on a Bahamian lake. Enjoy a game of Pictorama. Assemble a puzzle. Spend a few hours at a Adastra Gardens and Zoo. Enjoy the dolphin encounter at the Blue Lagoon. Swing with the dolphins. Play tooth- pick-pass with other couples.  Make you own Junkanoo artwork using the real stuff.

Image result for bahamas water towerVisit a hospital or nursing home. Go to Paint and Sip Studio, Listen to Christian love music together. Read the book of Ruth. Go diving in the pool. Learn a new indoor game each month. Attend a concert together. Go duck hunting. Go bird watching. Enjoy caroling during the Christmas season. Visit each other's parents -take them on a date with you. Pray together. Draw pictures of each other. Play Pictionary. Plan you own special Olympic day. Play catch-me-if-you-can. Play the "tell me what's on my mind" game. Visit our national museums and parks together—Clifton Heritage, Bahamas National Trust, Pompey Museum, Historical Society, National Art Gallery or Junknanoo Museum.  Visit the Jetline Simulation or other game rooms.  Play pool together.

Smile at everyone you see. Have a Sunday morning breakfast by the lake. Write a song together. Go biking on a nature trail. Go on a flower hunt. Read Elizabeth and Robert Browning poems to each other. Go sky diving. Go wind surfing. Go Bird watching. Take a one-day ride Andros. Go window shopping in a mall. Read a favorite magazine or newspaper together. Shell collecting on a beach. Take turn writing a story. Learn to play the guitar together. Cook a gourmet meal together in one of your parents' home. Play "what your favorite . . ."

Hug a tree. Go jogging together. Make surprises for each other. Modify a card game with your own special rules.  Invent a secret code romantic language. Go riding, rolling, jumping and walking on the beaches. Play arm wrestling for couples. Play scrabble, chess, or tic-tac-toe together. Talk about God together. Water ski together. Make hand crafts together. Watch a wholesome movie together.

Jump off the roof of a twenty-story building-with parachutes on of course. Read epitaphs together. Go Scuba diving. Play football, volleyball, table tennis together. Sit and look in each other's face. On a clear night, count the stars. Go butterfly catching. Study the effects of the moon on romantic relationships. Pretend Subway, Menchies or TCBY are fancy restaurants. On a wet day, walk in the rain together.  Remember to kiss romantically in small doses. No petting of body parts. SIT AND BE STILL.  Have fun. Remember, you want to know each other well long before you ignite the fire.

 


 

Barrington H. Brennen, MA, NCP, BCCP, a marriage and family therapist and board certified clinical psychotherapist, USA. Send your questions or comments to barringtonbrennen@gmail.com    or write to P.O. Box CB-13019, Nassau, The Bahamas, or visitwww.soencouragement.org    or call 242-327-1980 / 242-426 4002 Cell / 242 477 4002 WhatsAp

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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