Dear Sir:I attended a wedding ceremony a few weeks ago at a respected church in my community, and I was disturbed by the secular music used and the extravagant, sensual dresses and suits worn by the bridal party. It seems as if getting married is a big party rather than a sacred service? What do you think?
Answer: Last week I shared my concern about the secularization of the wedding ceremony with the use of romanticized secular music and immodest attire. I pointed out that the wedding ceremony is a sacred worship service where sacred hymns and tunes are used to glory the God of the creation and marriage, who is the source of eternal love, the only basis on which marriage should be built. The wedding dress should also be a celebration of Godís beauty and decency, not a fashion show of extravagant and indecent attire.
The use of hymns, sacred classical pieces, and gospel tunes are most appropriate for the wedding. Remember one is not limited to one style of music. There are very good sacred wedding songs from many cultures: Caribbean, African, South American, and European. However, whether the music is contemporary or traditional, it should extol Godís love in marriage. Here are samples of traditional and contemporary sacred songs for the wedding. This list is not intended to be an exhaustive list but only to give an idea of the type of music that is most appropriate for the Christian wedding.
Sample of musical pieces not appropriate for the Christian wedding ceremony are Babe, When I'm with you, Baby, I do; Endless Love; Forever In Love, Innocent, etc.
Dear reader, letís help to make the wedding ceremony sacred once more. Letís put Christ back into marriage. The first place to begin doing this is in the service that joins two into one. Remember, the wedding is a sacred solemn worship service. Never forget it.