Family and God
- By Barrington H.
Brennen, October 2, 2006
is crime increasing in our country when at the same time we claim to be very
religious? Why are women and children being abused and murdered when there
are so many Christian churches that should be preaching a gospel of peace
and love? Why are there so many family feuds and fights when these same
families sing in church each week: “I’m so gland I’m a part of the family me
of God . . . You will notice we say brother and sister around here. It’s
because we’re a family and the folks are so dear.” Wow! What hypocrisy!
These questions are just an illustration of the high level of hypocrisy that
exists in our beautiful county. These questions also reveal the strategy of
Satan to destroy the heart of every nation, community and church: the
- THE STRATEGY
- Satan knows that
the most effective way to destroy our nation is to attack two of the
institutions, or what I call, life experiences, that we cherish most
dearly and the majority of us are passionately involved with. These
life experiences are the family and the church. Satan is using these
two life experiences because they both connect to the heart and soul of
who we are and they speak about loyalty and service which are the
foundation of all relationships. They are about God Himself, His
creative and redemptive power, sovereignty, and majesty. If Satan can
get us to doubt or disown God, he knows we will be easily lured on his
- THE CONNECTION
- These two life
experiences (Church and Family) are intricately connected. Let me
explain how Satan uses these two to weaken us, our families and nation.
Satan knows that our relationship with each other either enhances or
distorts our relationship with or our concept of who God is. Satan
knows that a distorted, unhealthy childhood can lead one to a corrupt
lifestyle, including a life of violence, anger, homosexuality, or even
depression. Satan knows that painful childhood experiences or repeated
disappointments and failures in our lives can cause us to pull away from
God. Satan also knows if he can keep us rigid, inflexible, holy
Christian zombies, then he will be successful in having us live faked
Christian lives. When we come to church, we would make him laugh
because he knows we are on his side. In other words, if he can keep our
worship (focus) on external behavior rather than on internal experience,
then the chances of us falling off by the way side will be greater.
- THE EFFECT
- Earlier in this
article I stated that “Satan knows that our relationship with each other
either enhances or distorts our relationship with or our concept of who
God is.” Let me briefly share how this strategy is revealed in our
We know that at least 85% of homosexuals have
experienced at least one or all of these:
Sexual molestation as a child.
Exposure to sexually explicit material at a young age.
Ridicule or shame by relatives or friends because of what one perceives
to be abnormal behavior.
Repeated disappointments and deep hurt in romantic relationships with
the opposite sex.
What is the end
result? Here it is: Broken or unhealthy relationships on earth usually
destroy one’s relationship with the Heavenly Father. The further we are
from God the further we are from each other. The further we are from God,
the greater the risk of becoming emotional or physically ill.
More than 90 percent of prison inmates:
Do not know or had an unhealthy relationship with their parents.
Were shamed and blamed more often than praised and encouraged by their
Have not experienced short- or long-term loving relationships with the
significant others in their lives.
Thus, are more inclined to not believe in God or become disillusioned
Most people with serious psychological disorders such as depression,
anxiety, phobia, schizophrenia:
Have had painful childhood experiences with their significant others.
Have been shamed and blamed too often.
Have been abandoned or neglected by their significant others.
Thus, they often times develop fanatical spiritual beliefs, and
self-righteous behaviors or become spiritually disillusioned.
Many women suffering long, uncontrollable hypertension, diabetes, and
other stress- related illnesses:
Are living with troublesome, argumentative, and uncaring husbands
Have personal unresolved issues of the past
May have rebellious, defiant children
Thus, causing hormones such as epinephrine, norepinephrine, cortisol and
prolactin to elevate. If they remain elevated for long periods of time,
they suppress the immune system and increase the chances of getting ill.
Rebellious, defiant, belligerent and vitriolic
teenagers are usually from homes where:
Parents are too strict, or unloving and uncaring.
Parents are setting a poor example.
Parents are too busy making a living or overly concerned about providing
the material needs of the child.
again, what is the end result of all of this? Here it is: Broken or
unhealthy relationships on earth usually destroy one’s relationship with the
Heavenly Father. The further we are from God the further we are from each
other. The further we are from God and each other, the greater the risk of
becoming emotionally or physically ill and an increase of all forms of
you in a broken relationship? I encourage you to seek God who is always
loving and kind. In addition, seek professional help to assist you in the
healing process. You need not remain broken and wounded. You can find peace
Barrington H. Brennen is a marriage and family therapist
and counseling psychologist. Send you comments are questions to P.O. Box
CB-13019, Nassau, The Bahamas, or call 242 327 1980, or email