H. Brennen is an ordained minister of
the gospel, board certified clinical
psychotherapist, nationally certified
psychologist, USA, marriage and family
therapist, musician and writer.
He loves talking with young people and
sharing about Jesus and the practical
things of life. He graduated
from Bahamas Academy in June of 1973.
He is a husband (33 years), father, and
grandfather. He earned graduate
degrees in counseling psychology and
religion from Andrews University,
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Questions below answered on April 5,
you believe in sex before marriage?
No. The Bible clearly teaches no
sex before marriage. Exodus 20:14 states
"Do not commit adultery."
6:18 states: "Flee from sexual
immorality. All other sins a man commits
are outside his body, but he who sins
sexually sins against his own body. [More].
Modern research tells us the sex before
marriage does more damage that good.
Sex before marriage also increases the
change of having sexually transmitted
Why Should I Not have Sex Before
masturbation wrong? Yes it is
wrong. I do not recommend
masturbation for singles at any age.
6:18 reminds us to flee all sexual
masturbation all that bad? Well,
research tells us that many single
Christian teenagers and young adults are
feeding the sexual appetites through
masturbation, thereby increasing their
risk of sexual dysfunctions during
marriage. Masturbation is
dangerous because it is addictive. No
form of sexual addiction is healthy.
God never intended for the sex act to be
a solitary experience served through
masturbation. God designed sexual
intercourse to be shared between a
husband and wife as the highest
expression of intimacy. Should Christian
single men and women use masturbation as
a means of releasing sexual tension to
avoid fornication? Certainly not. With
the addictive element and lust thoughts
and transitory nature, I cannot
recommend masturbating as a method for
an occasional release of sexual tension.
Dr. Kraft continues in his book
Whole, Holy and Sexuality :
"Masturbation is particularly seductive
because it is an easy and accessible way
to reduce tension and to explore genital
feelings and fantasies without
responsibility, and accountability. It
seems we have a license to masturbate
almost whenever we feel like it. We need
not worry about other people or social
consequences; it can be kept to oneself.
Part of masturbationís lure is the safe
secrecy of fantasy; one does not have to
risk rejection, embarrassment or
failure. . . . Instead of engaging in
mature relationships, the individual can
create a world of make-believe, where
anything is possible and there are not
limits . . . Masturbation can numb the
discomfort of emptiness and
incompleteness and promises some
semblance of being one with self and
other. But these rewards are short
lived. Masturbation involves a
yearning for intimacy and completeness."
will you do if you found out your
daughter had pre-marital sex?
I would cry, get angry, shout up, pray,
think, then speak. She is still my
daughter. I will forgive her.
Have you always felt God protected you?
No. There were a few
times I doubted God, but I quickly
regained my senses and trusted Him
again. That's a part of being
5. What is
illicit sex? First it is sex
with someone you are not married to.
Second, it is sexual activities that are
not Christian. For example,
masturbation and anal sex.
do you know when you need to get
rebaptized? When you have
embarrassed Jesus and yourself
publicly. When you openly
opposed Christian principles of living.
7. How old
you have to be to have a girlfriend or
boyfriend? The truth is you
can have a "friend" at any age.
However, the best time for a serious
relationship is after the teen years and
after high school. One should be
at least 21.
Could God be a woman? I don't
know. It is not important to me.
We do know that there are a few times in
the Bible God is described with feminine
or motherly qualities.
The Scriptures themselves use language,
images and concepts to describe the
Divine presence of God that include both
masculine and feminine qualities. In the
Bible we read that God is like a loving
father, a courageous warrior, a good
shepherd, a mighty king, a passionate
lover. But God is also like a
mother eagle, a woman in labour, a
midwife delivering a baby, a nurturing
mother feeding her infant at the breast.
Does God really answer prayer? Yes
he does. John 9:31. 1 John
5:14-15. Jeremiah 29:13
do you know when God is speaking to you?
When you heart is open and free to
listen to him. When you are humble
enough to admit that you are a sinner -
weak, stupid, or unable to live without
him. It is called total surrender.
Jesus knew that we would sin, why did he
create us? This and other
questions like that have been asked for
hundreds of years. I would like to
ask Jesus this question. However,
it was because of love, total love, that
we were created. Remember, God did
not mess up. We did.
Why do we have to be like Jesus?
Because He is our creator and example. It is simple.
How to resist peer pressure? Believe
in yourself? Trust in God.
Admit that you can fall before you do,
then you may not fall.
Select close associates that will not
tempt you to do wrong?
do I get close to God? Bible
study and prayer. Personal witness
and sharing his love to others.
15. If you
only pray every day can you still go to
heaven? No. "Faith
without works is dead." If you
have faith in Jesus, you will show it to
others by being kind and loving. James
Questions below answered on April 24,
What is illicit sex? the
world "illicit" means "not permitted or
allowed" or "illegal." Illicit sex
would be any kind of sex done outside of
Is it wrong to have a
It is not wrong, as long as he or she is
just a friend. However, it
"boyfriend" means that it is a
permanent-like, intense, love
relationship, where go cannot sleep at
nights unless you speak to each other
and the relationship prevents the
development of other friendship, then it
is wrong. That kind of
relationship is only for adults.
How do resist peer pressure? You
cannot resist peer pressure by yourself.
Jesus in you will be the power to help
you resist negative peer pressure.
When you let Jesus take control of your
life, pray and read the Bible each day,
you will be filled with the spirit that
will fight the negative peer pressure
for you. "I can do all things
through Christ who give be strength . .
." Phil 4:13
Why did God send our souls to earth? God
did not send our souls to earth.
You are a soul. "The Lord God
formed the man from the dust of the
ground and breathed into his nostrils
the breath of life, and the man became a
living being." Genesis 2:7. The
Bible also says that "The soul who sins
is the one who will die." Ezekiel 18:20.
These verses suggest that the person is
a soul. The soul is not another
part of a person.
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